Supernatural Self-Esteem

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If you long to connect with the heavenly family, which is the angels and the Father and Jesus who love you, and that you have a longing for—it's because you’re born with a longing for this loving, intelligent, heavenly family—and most of us don’t get that in our physical earth. All the adaptations that we make to try to somehow make that still work will just fall off of us if we will turn toward our heavenly family and connect there. As we get full, all those other things just flake off. I always have a picture of a person covered in mud, and then it dries and cracks and just falls off. That is so much easier than the back-and-forth fight of “I want my family to love me, but they don’t. I love them, but I hate them.” You can play that game till your death.

I have supernatural self-esteem, which means that I tend to look at myself in a positive light and am very slow to criticize myself, even though I’m not completely impervious if I make a mistake. I am able to repent and correct.

I have supernatural self-esteem, which I pretty much take for granted. I tend to be right, that people will like me, that people will cooperate with me. And if people try to push me around, I will successfully push them back. Pretty much any conflict or contest I join, I expect to win. That doesn’t mean I can’t say, “Well, that’s not fair,” or “That’s too weighted in my favor,” but nonetheless, I expect to win things. Once in a while I realize I can’t win—like a policeman giving me a ticket. You’re not going to wiggle out of that, particularly if you actually did it.

But you can have supernatural self-esteem, and it cuts out so much self-criticism. The enemy uses that over and over again on people. You read about all these Hollywood stars, and they’re so conflicted, even though they have massive success, people telling them they’re pretty and talented, and they have millions, and they’re still unhappy.

Supernatural self-esteem is something I want to start sharing in counseling because so many have that problem—saying things like, “Things never turn out for me,” even though many things do turn out for them. They need to stop saying that.

Even at my age, I’m certain I could find a woman who would enjoy me, whom I would actually like, if I wanted one. I don’t want one, but it’s nice to be this old and feel like that wouldn’t be hard for me. It’s a funny kind of thing, but it sure saves you a lot of trouble.

I got angry at someone recently, and I wanted to hurt her, and someone said, “Most people would be sad that they lost their temper. You’re just pleased that you didn’t hurt someone.” It never occurred to me to think I should feel bad about losing my temper. Why should I?

I want to share this because it takes away a lot of ground the enemy uses. Most people who should be concerned about how bad they are usually aren’t. They’re mostly concerned they’ll get caught. Truly wicked people are usually into their wickedness.

But a lot of the people we deal with are largely good people who just pick themselves apart. Supernatural self-esteem is a gift, and it should be shared. Some people need a little more supernatural self-esteem.

Father in heaven, I thank you for giving me supernatural self-esteem You're such a kind God you're such a generous God. I ask that you release supernatural self-esteem to all Christians and to every counselee. And any person who struggles to do Your will.  Please release the gift of supernatural self-esteem and anyone who hears this tape let it fall upon them truly it is a spiritual gift in Jesus name amen One thing that I will say there's really nothing in my history that suggests that I should have supernatural self-esteem 

Vital Points: Heavenly Family

• Humans are born with a deep longing for a loving, intelligent heavenly family.

• Earthly families often cannot fulfill this longing.

• Many emotional adaptations people make to survive family dysfunction fall away when they connect with the heavenly family.

• Turning toward heaven brings fullness; striving for earthly approval becomes control.

• Letting heavenly love fill the inner void is easier and more freeing than the constant struggle of wanting family love that isn’t given or approval from others.

Vital Points: Supernatural Self-Esteem

• A form of spiritual confidence that minimizes unnecessary self-criticism.

• Includes:

  • Expectation of being liked.

  • Expectation of cooperation from others.

  • Expectation of prevailing in most conflicts.

• Not denial of mistakes—just freedom from excessive self-blame.

• This gift removes the enemy’s foothold of constant internal accusation.

• Many people, even those with success, live in deep self-conflict without this gift.

• Clients often struggle with thoughts like “things never work out for me,” even when evidence contradicts it.

• Supernatural self-esteem helps counter such lies.

Vital Points: Moral Clarification

• Truly evil people are usually not tormented by self-criticism.

• Most people we counsel are fundamentally good but harsh on themselves.

• They need relief from self-accusing patterns, not more scrutiny.

Vital Points: Accessibility of the Gift

• This spiritual confidence is not tied to personal history or natural personality.

• Anyone can receive it regardless of past rejection or trauma.

• It is considered a spiritual impartation, not psychological self-talk.

• A request to heaven asking for supernatural self-esteem to be released to all who need it.

• An acknowledgment that the gift is spiritual in nature and freely given.

• Affirmation that it is not dependent on personal background.

Vital Points: Practical Application

• Consider sharing this concept widely because it helps remove the enemy’s influence.

• Encourage everyone to take note of positive thoughts quickly and write them down before they fade.

• Most of us say God loves us so let us think and act like that.